Concerned Man Debating Whether He Should Host His Brother's GF's Homebirth At His House

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abbyadler
Nov 15, 2021 4:00 PM EST

Giving birth obviously isn't a joke. Picking the right hospital and doctor to help you through it should be taken seriously. I've personally never understood people that wanted to try homebirths, but to each their own. In today's 'Am I The A$$hole?' post, a concerned OP asked if it wold be rude if he didn't offer up his home for his brother's girlfriend to give birth in his home. To give you context, it's their first birth and they're not planning on having medical professionals on the scene. This clearly sounds like a recipe for disaster, and Reddit seems to agree. Scroll down for all the upcoming hellish birthday details. 

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  • 01
    Font - WIBTA if I didn't let my brother's girlfriend have her baby at my house? Not the A-hole I'm posting anonymously for privacy reasons. My brother has made a really weird request of me. He asked me if him and his girlfriend could use my house to give birth at. I didn't even know what he was getting at at first but he explained to me that their apartment doesn't have a bathtub,
    via u/brotherthrowaway4120

    It's an immediate no from us. There's no way we'd let someone give birth in our private bathtubs. 

  • 02
    Font - is too small for an inflatable pool and it would attract too much attention if the birth was there and the neighbors will likely call the authorities. I have a house instead of an apartment and I have a bathtub and more room then them. My brother thinks I should be honored about this.
    via u/brotherthrowaway4120

    The neighbors would call the authorities for a reason. 

  • 03
    Font - I thought this was so weird. I thought they would go to the hospital like is normal but they haven't used a doctor at all so I have no idea how it works and if the hospital would ask who their doctor is. My brother said I don't have to be there if I feel uncomfortable. I don't have a problem with him or his girlfriend but I feel strange at the thought of leaving the 2 of them alone with my house. I'm a guy and I don't have kids so
    via u/brotherthrowaway4120
  • 04
    Font - I admit to no experience in this area but I'm also worried something could go wrong because neither my brother or his girlfriend are doctors or have any medical training. My brother and his girlfriend have been saying how upset they'll be if I say no, that the mother being comfortable is what's most important and I shouldn't deny her and that I'll look like a jerk if I turn down their request because they don't have a backup house. I just don't get why they can't go to the hospital even t
    via u/brotherthrowaway4120
  • 05
    Font - WIBTA if I didn't let them use my house for the birth, because it makes me feel weird and uncomfortable and I would prefer they use a hospital?
    via u/brotherthrowaway4120
  • 06
    Font - EssexCatWoman · 20h 2 Colo-rectal Surgeon [37] NTA. I would not feel comfortable with a first time birth with no medical backup planned in my home. I mean it's a strange request anyway. Plus it requires a lot of flexibility - you could be 'on call' for 4 weeks, with everything that entails, and then potentially not get your home back quickly afterwards even if all goes perfectly.
    via u/EssexCatWoman
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    Font - ittybittydittycom · 19h · edited 17h Partassipant [1] Plus, if something bad happens at his house it's possible there could be legal consequences. They don't even know if the fetus is breached or has any medical condition that would require a doctor there. It's way too risky. NTA
    via u/ittybittydittycom
  • 08
    Font - Frodo_Picard · 18h Possible outcomes: 1. All good 2. Go to jail 3. Can never look at your bathtub without being grossed out 4. Can never look at your bathtub without crying
    via u/Frodo_Picard
  • 09
    Font - wundersuit · 17h 5) The baby comes really quick and the mother doesnt want to stand in cold pool water. 6) The baby takes a long time and the mother gets hypothermia from being in an unheated kiddy pool for hours.
    via u/wundersuit
  • 10
    Gesture - Kayliee73 · 16h 7) they ask to trade homes since their baby was born there and has a connection there
    via u/Kayliee73
  • 11
    Font - superlost007 · 14h Partassipant [1] Next week: AITA my wife gave birth at my brothers house and now he won't give us the house! We created a special bond at his house. AITA for demanding he hand over the keys?
    via u/superlost007
  • 12
    Human body - nictrash · 13h NTA!! you are entitled to those keys! You have a blood bond with that house!!!! /s
    via u/nictrash
  • 13
    Font - LurkerNan · 12h Asshole Enthusiast [7] Plus his mom says it would be the right thing to do, since they are a family and OP is a single person.
    via u/LurkerNan
  • 14
    Smile - Beginning-Monitor-17 · 17h Home owner's insurance! Home owner's insurance! Do not let them use your house, because you will be financially liable if anything should go wrong.
    via u/Beginning-Monitor-17
  • 15
    Font - Chaevyre · 17h First-time birth, no medical back up, AND no prenatal care? Nope nope nope. NTA.
    via u/Chaevyre

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